The Radical Lover

"Joy" by @devine.labs

I sit quietly in the sand present in the

moment, present in my body. The waves crashing excitedly onto shore, such an extremely beautiful sight: the clear blue sky and glassy turquoise ocean. How do we so often take for granted the simple things that hold so much significance in this plane when compared to the fleeting moment that is human existence.

I truly appreciate being alive at this moment, on this planet. The overwhelming amount of joy and gratitude that washes over me when I take a moment to observe the ocean is tantamount to pure God/source energy. Love, that is what it is… the purest energy. The highest vibration. I genuinely believe that the purpose of our existence is to experience love in so many ways. To learn to love in many ways, not just romantically.

"A good lover is also a good educator and a good pupil." - Alain de Botton

I love the beach.

The sight of the waves cycling clumsily onto the sand triggered my contemplation on the concept of life cycles. They truly are complex, eternal things from the molecular, to the macro, to the spiritual levels. Life is quite literally eternal. Everything is and will be what it is.

The waves will always come. Some moments they might be angry, rapid and tumultuous other days they may be lazy, shy and slow. The one thing that is certain is that as long as there is water, it will touch the shore, retreat then repeat forever. The sun will always set then rise again. Births will be celebrated and deaths will be mourned.

Life goes on with or without our romanticized attachments to our favorite tangents in our cycles. The belief that anything besides our consciousness will be ours forever is a theft of joy. It constricts us with the fear of losing something or someone we were never meant to hold on to because they are not ours. They are their own. We tend to build these personalities and attitudes in an attempt to protect and hold on to our romanticized attachments in a manner that causes suffering.

“Our suffering comes when we identify with our protective covering and forget the loving awareness that is intrinsic to our being” -Tara Blanch.

To truly love is to experience, not to attach. To understand that everything is in constant motion and that holding on to things that are moving away from us in its natural rhythm is only going to hurt us. I like to use the analogy of floating in the ocean to describe the way I try to love; the moment we let go of your presence and our trust in our experiences (which is often in an attempt to control what is happening around us) is the moment we begin to drown. The moment we truly let go and trust in our experiences, the currents, the tides and the unknown is the moment we experience love.

Letting go of control is harder than it sounds but it is worth it. Live and love becomes synonymous. Some might even call us hedonistic. ;)